It’s a thing with hero-worshiping, the object on the receiving end gets mixed up in all sorts of myths and warped conceptions. And first time sex is no exception. Often, people share such nerve-wracking experiences about their first time sex that it often misguides the uninitiated ones.

The first time having sex can be super uncomfortable, a lot of fun, really awful, or all of the above — there’s no right or wrong way to have sex. 

There are so many different reactions one could have, both emotional and physical. However, the most important thing to remember is that you decide when you’re ready to have sex and that you’re comfortable with that choice. And when that time comes, try not to think of it as “losing” or “giving” something away. You’re actually gaining a whole new experience.

So before you make up your mind about losing your virginity for the first time, here are a few things that you should know:

• You may have heard that when you lose virginity, you will bleed. There might be light bleeding  but don’t expect a scene from ‘The Shining’. You may have ruptured your hymen before having sex if you are very active in sports or frequently ride bicycles. Also, it can be possible that your hymen may not break the first time you have sex.
  
• In your first time do not expect to achieve orgasm. First-timers should focus on exploring their partner’s sensitive areas, which would eventually help in the long run. Especially for females, achieving orgasm can be a little more difficult when compared to men.
  
• Your inhibitions drop if and when you are enjoying a few drinks, so it is advisable to not make any decisions at this time. You might end up regretting them, once you are sober.
  
• Your body doesn’t change after you have sex for the first time. However, you will experience certain physiological reactions related to sexual arousal. This may include the swollen vulva, breast tenderness, sensitive nipples, rapid breathing, sweating, flushed skin {post sex skin glow}. These arousal-related responses are only temporary; it’s just responding to the stimulus.
  
• It’s completely normal to feel uncomfortable the first time you have sex. Friction may happen with penetration, and that could cause discomfort. 

Be it your first time or the next time, safe and comfortable sex is always important. And there are ways to ensure that happens:

If having sex does hurt, though, that could be because of a lack of lubrication, so lubricate properly and before penetration indulge in foreplay. You should see a doctor if you experience pain every time you have sex. They can assess your symptoms and help treat any underlying conditions.

Always use condoms. It will protect you from sexually transmitted infections and also protect you from pregnancy. Pregnancy can happen even for the first time whether the ejaculation happened inside or outside the vagina.

Everyone has their own take on virginity. It might mean a lot to you or nothing at all. Either way, sex should always be about feeling respected and enjoying the moment. If your first time is a let down, don’t get disappointed because it can never be as ideal as movies or TV shows. Sexual health is an important part of our lives and we want to make sure that you are always aware.

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